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I often share that there is always a method to my madness.

Much of this madness comes from the tons and TONS of thoughts and pondering moments I experience.

Here is where I get to share those thoughts and moments with you. Some will be super raw, and some will be emotional, but you can follow along here for all of them!

Looking Back

Stop Looking Back...You're Not Going That Way

December 28, 20231 min read

The Art of Letting Go: Declutter Your Mind, Embrace Growth

We are all notorious for carrying around far too much baggage. It's exhausting, isn't it?

In my last blog, I touched on the concept of "cleaning out the attic," aka, start organizing the thoughts in your brain and remove the junk that doesn't need to be sitting up there!

Pain. We all have experienced it.

We all hold onto the memories of what that felt like. That's totally normal. If we didn't keep some form of that memory, we would repeatedly keep putting ourselves into that pain, learning nothing from it.

The difference here lies with how you use this as a tool that would help improve your sense of well-being and become better as an individual.

Are you looking back on that scenario, playing out what "should have" happened? What you "wish" you would have done? Are you blaming someone for what they "did" or "didn't" do in that moment?

Let me check you right quick.

That is all irrelevant. For one, we clearly can't travel back into time, so why are we wasting our energy trying to envision these alternative outcomes?

Stop wasting your energy living in guilt, shame, and regret.

You are not the same person now as you were then. You've learned. You've lived. You've grown.

Instead of dwelling on the things you cannot change, shift your focus to what happened AFTER the event. What did it teach you? What can you do differently? What boundaries have you now set?

Be mindful.

Stop looking back to what had happened then, you aren't there anymore.

Live. Learn. Grow. Repeat.

With Love and Gratitude,
Coach Jayme
(Written in 2019)

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Coach Jayme Shiarla

Mindset Transformation Coach, Certified Life Coach, and NLP Practitioner, Jayme Shiarla

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